Family And Relatives

Family And Relatives




(78) On the authority of A'isha (may Allah be pleased with her), who said:

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "The best amongst you is he who is the most kind to his wife and I am the kindest amongst you to my wives."

(Tirmizi)

Note: In this Hadith, the Prophet (PBH)not boasting. The reason why he said he is the kindest amongst the people is that he is anexample for Muslims and they imitate him in all things. This is a very important issue, so that Prophet (PBH) wanted to reiterate the necessity of being kind to one's wife.

(79) On the authority of Abdullah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said:

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "All created beings are Allah's needless. So the most loved one of Allah he who shows kindness to His needless."

(Shu'ab Al-Iman-Baihaqi)

Note: This Hadith means every body needs help, so he who help people will be the most loved one of Allah.

(80) On the authority of Jubair bin Mut'im (may Allah be pleased with him), who said:

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "He who breaks off the ties of blood will not enter Paradise."

(Bukhari and Muslim)

Note: This Hadith preaches that the person who breaks off relations with his family but not visiting them or helping them will not go to Paradise.

(81) On the authority of Abdullah Ibn 'Amr Ibn 'Al'Aas (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "Among the major sins are: Association of anybody with Allah, disobedience to parents, killing of a person, and taking a false oath (perjury)."

(Bukhari)

Note: Association of anybody with Allah means that believing that there is a god other than Allah, or believing that God (Allah) has a son.

(82) On the authority of Abdullah Ibn'Amr Ibn Al'Aas (may Allah be pleased with him), who said:

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "Slandering one's parents is a major sin". The Companions asked: 'O Messenger of Allah! Could a person slander his own parents?' He answered: "Yes, if he slanders another person's father, the latter would in retaliation slander his father; if he slanders another person's mother, the latter would in turn slander his mother."

(Bukhari and Muslim)

Note: The main point of this Hadith is that if you slander someone's parents, they will retaliate and slander yours.

(83) On the authority of Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said:

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "One who conspires a woman against her husband, does not belong to us."

(84) On the authority of Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her), who said:

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:"The most perfect amongst believers in faith is he who is the best in manner and kindest to his wife."

(Tirmizi)

(85) On the authority of Ibn 'Umar (may Allah be pleased with him), who said:

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "He who just returns the visits of his relatives does not completely fulfill the obligations of relationship. But he who ignores the mistakes of his relatives, forgives them, and visits them in order to bind the ties of relationship when they are broken does fulfill the obligations of relationship."

(Bukhari)

(86) On the authority of Abu Usaid Malik Ibn Rubia Al-Saedi (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: While we were sitting with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) a man of the Bani Salamah tribe came and said: 'O Messenger of Allah! Is there anything, I can now do in benevolence towards my parents after their death? The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) answer: "Yes, by praying for them and soliciting (Allah's) mercy and forgiveness towards them, fulfilling their promises and undertakings, doing kindness to those who may be related to you through them, and respecting their friends."

(Abu Daoud)

Note: "Benevolence" means kindness.

(87) On the authority of Nu'man bin Bashir (may Allah be pleased with him), who said:

My mother Bint Rawaha asked my father about donating some gifts from his property to me. My father deferred the matter for one year, and then set forth to do that. My mother said: I shall not be pleased unless you call Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) as witness to what you confer as a gift to your son. So father took hold of my hand (I was at that time a boy), and came to Allah's Messenger and said: Allah's Messenger, the mother of my son, wishes that I should call you witness to what I confer as gift to her son. Allah's Messenger (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "Bashir: have you any other son beside this son of yours?" He said: "Yes". The Prophet said: "Have you given gifts to all of them like this?" He said: "No". Thereupon the Prophet said: "Then call me not as witness, for I cannot be witness to an injustice."

(Bukhari and Muslim)

Note: The main point of this Hadith is that parents should treat each child in the family equally.

(88) On the authority of Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said:

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "Of the dinar you spend in the way of Allah, the dinar you spend for the freedom of a slave, the dinar you give away in charity to the poor, and the dinar you spend on your wife and children, the highest in respect of reward is the one you spend on your family."

(Muslim)

Note: Dinar is a type of money.

(89) On the authority of Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him), who said:

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "On the Day of Judgement in the estimation of Allah, the worst position among all the human beings will be of that man who performs a sexual act with his wife and then makes the secret of this act public." (Muslim)

(90) On the authority of Abu Sufyan Sakhr Bin Harb (may Allah be pleased with him), who said:

During his meeting with Hiraclius, the Roman Ruler, the latter asked him; "What does your Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) as you to do?' I said: 'He asks us to worship the only One God (Allah), and not to associate anybody with Him; not to follow the habits and practices of our ancestors; he further asks us to perform the praying (Salat), tell the truth, keep chaste and to treat our blood relations well."

(Bukhari and Muslim)

Note: "Not to follow the habits and practices of our ancestors" means that in previous times, people used to follow what their parents did; such as, worshipping idols, stealing, killing, and committing other sins. Because their ancestors sinned, people assumed it was justified. Prophet Muhammad (PBH) commanded them to change their behavior and become more righteous.

(91) On the authority of Al-Mughirah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said:

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "Allah forbids all of you to disobey your mothers." (Bukhari and Muslim)

(92) On the authority of Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said:

A man asked the Messenger of Allah 2/ who amongst his near ones had the greatest right over him. The Prophet replied: "Your mother". He asked, "Then who is next?" The Prophet replied: "Your mother". He again asked, "Then who is next?" The Prophet replies: "Your mother". He asked: "Then who is next?" The Prophet replied:"Your father."

(Bukhari and Muslim)

Note: It is very important to obey and respect one's mother in the Islamic religion for the following reasons:

1) A mother carried her baby for nine months in her womb.

2) During pregnancy, the mother experiences great hardship. Then during delivery of the child, the mother suffers extreme pain. Many women die in childbirth.

3) The mother is the one who feeds and nurtures the baby.

4) It is an innate instinct for mothers to care more for their children than fathers do.

(93) On the authority of Ibn 'Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) who said:

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "The most disliked act out of the lawful acts in the sight of Allah is divorce." (Abu Daoud).

Note: Although divorce is legal (in Islam) for certain cases and circumstances. The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) preached against divorce.

(94) On the authority of Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) who said:

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:"A man marries a woman for four reasons i.e. either for the sake of her wealth, her family chain, her charms or her love of religion. Try to marry one for the sake of her religiousness, and you will be blessed."

(Bukhari and Muslim)

Note: The women who have morals are the best to marry.

(95) On the authority of Asma'a bint Abu Bakr Al-Siddiq (may Allah be pleased with her), who said: My mother came to Medina from Makkah to see me, while she was still an unbeliever. She had come to demand something from me. I inquired with the Prophet /2: ‘ My mother has come to see me and she is expecting something from me. May I oblige her?' He said: "Yes. be kind to your mother."

(Bukhari and Muslim)

Note: This Hadith has two main points:

1) Be kind to your parents, no matter what their religion is.

2) A Muslim must be kind to other people no matter what their religion is. For example: The Prophet Muhammed (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) used to visit his Jewish neighbours in Medina. Also the Prophet used to give charity to his poor Jewish neighbour.

(96) On the authority of Sa'ad Ibn Abu Waqqas (may Allah be pleased with him) who said:

Once I was lying seriously ill and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) came to see me. This happened in the year when the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) performed the Farewell Pilgrimage. I said to him; O 'Messenger of Allah, you see my condition. I have considerable money and property and my sole heir is my daughter. Can I, then, give away two-thirds of my assets in charity?' He said: 'No'. I then submitted, 'One-half' O Messenger of Allah?' (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). Again he said: 'No'. I again submitted, "well then one-third, O Messenger of Allah'? On which he said: 'One third is sufficient, and one-third is more than enough. It is better to leave your children better off than in poverty, forced to beg for their sustenance. Whatever you spend for the sake of Allah, even for a morsel of food that you put in the mount of your wife, Allah will reward you."